This subject makes me feel as awkward as that photo pose. So let's pretend like there's nothing super awkward about it and listen to this...
I was sitting across a new gal pal during happy hour recently and we were exchanging dating stories, particularly those about guys we’ve met through lame dating apps, when suddenly she said, “I haven’t been pursued in years.”
*Cue the look of utter disbelief on my face.*
I immediately responded with, “What? How?! But you’re so pretty and—.
She interrupted to go on about how it’s so easy to meet a man that doesn’t meet her standards and how coming across a good, Christian man (because not all Christian men are worth falling for), is super tough. But I was glad she interrupted because I spoke too soon.
Halfway through my sentence I realized that I was about to bombard her with the same annoying questions everyone asks me. But worse, I was about to list the things that are obvious about her – her beauty and how amazing she is – as if that’s the only reason a man should pursue her. And of course, I know better than to ask those cliché questions and to think that beauty is everything.
The fact that I was surprised about her being single was weird in itself because I was still in disbelief, yet I could relate 100%. Plus, I was holding myself back from interrupting her to shout, “OMG same!” So, she continued on and I nodded with every word she said because girls tend to bond when talking about relationships (or lack of), and this was that exact moment. And we laughed loud at how unreal and uncommon our stories were after learning that its been almost a decade for the both of us since we've been pursued.
So we continued to chat over tapas and wine about the nuances of online dating and the guys you come across, who you just can’t take serious (more on that topic in another post). But then she said, “You can’t meet them in church, because there aren’t any there, and you can’t meet them online.”
So what's a girl to do?
I obviously, clearly have no clue which brings me to write this blog – in true Carrie Bradshaw fashion – typing fast and away on my Mac.
I’m curious to hear how adults meet other adults, I’m asking for a friend here…ha! It’s tough enough to make friends outside of your inner circle as an adult, let alone meet someone you want to invest time in. So, I’m simply curious.
I’d love to hear where or how you met your boyfriend, fiancé or husband! If I hear *crickets, crickets* then I’ll assume my friend and I have to become nuns, which at this point would be totally cool.
So share away!